Judgy mudgy little smudgy. Has anyone ever felt so tired of being judged at? Everytime you make a mistake, then someone would judge you stuff yang sometimes you feel like "Huh?? Ape hal pulak?" Im so sick of it!
Let me give you an example. You know you're gonna be busy for the weekend with own stuff like, I dont know maybe beli stok2 makanan or what not kan, then suddenly your friends ask you out for picnic etc. Although you really wanted to go with them but you only got that day to shop your own stuff etc etc. You had to turn down their offer la kan. Then all of a sudden you dgr ada mulut2 puaka cakap "Ala dia tu konon je ada hal la apa padahal nanti bawak masuk laki dalam rumah". Something like that la kan. Bengang jugak kan sedikit sebanyak when other people being a smart-ass over you.
Im just saying sometimes we really need not to judge something or someone before you really know whats going on. Plus tak ke tu namanya buruk sangka kat orang? Kan dah berdosa di situ.
I have friends from all paths of life, let it be sealim-alim manusia or sesetan-setannya. But I never had yang perompak, pembunuh yet la in my list. Heh.
Its nice to know that different people has their own way of thinking, way of talking, way of style, way of intrepeting things. Plus we can pretty much know how their background is like when we observe them thoroughly. Sometimes we come across people having a total opposite idea that what you have. That depends on how well you manage to maintain your relationship with that person. Memang susah nak jumpa orang sebulu dgn kita, memang tak semua orang sekepala dgn kita. But at least we can respect them and just shut up.
Kadang2 I feel glad that Im here now in India. Not anywhere else where all those white people at. Strugling for my degree. Spending most of my youth time being away from home sweet home KL. I thank God Im not surrounded by all those hooligans yang kaki party, kaki minum, macam2 kaki lagi la.
Some of my friends yang lucky enough to go study abroad to places like US, Aussie etc they got terikut2 dgn budaya kat sana. Im not saying they are bad people. I really dont. And Im not proud of them publicly showing what they did on last night party whatsoever. If Im good enough I would have adviced them, but sadly Im not. So better if I just shut up. After all Im less than perfect myself either.
What I do believe is, you never know why or whats going on with other's life, so why be so judgemental kan? The most important thing is that you know them personally and appreciate whats there deep inside. They might not be as alim as you tutup sini, tutup sana, maybe they got other good qualities in them too. I know some would say, kita ada tanggungjawab nak nasihatkan dia, but to me, not all people sesuai nak nasihatkan orang. You can always find some other way to make that person realize of their wrong-doings, not making them feel deserted or treat them as if diorang je yang salah banyak buat dosa, kau sorang je banyak pahala.
Memang betul, bila tengah depressed orang selalu nasihat ingat Tuhan, jangan lupa Tuhan. But what if his/her iman is not as tegar as yours. You cannot aspect them to change as what you may like. Its such a shame if you just keep on judging them, outcasting them rather than guiding them & befriending them. Its just making you a smaller person for acting as if you were a God and worst is when you bad-talk about it to other people.
This is just a reminder for myself and whoever who read this. Just think about it. We might not like being judged at so why we do that to others too.